Needing Does Not Make You Needy

I repeat: NEEDING DOES NOT MAKE YOU NEEDY.

Or weak.
Or pathetic.
Or a taker.
Or soooo damn demanding.

A need is something essential and super important that you require.
Translation: Your absolute, uncompromising, non-negotiable “musts”.

Not things you want or wish for — a winning lottery ticket, pet unicorn, private rap battle with Eminem (no?… just me?!)

It’s things like Love. And Respect. And Connection.
It’s the ability to navigate life as a passionate, caring, figuring-shit-out-as-I-go-but-doing-the-best-I-can human being

But know this: we’ll never have our needs met if we don’t learn to ask.
I know, right?! Can you imagine?! YOU HAVE TO ACTUALLY ASK.

And asking takes balls. Big ‘ol lady balls.

It also takes knowing what you need — tuning in, looking around, and recognizing that ‘Yes! THIS is where I need support, guidance, and a swift kick in the ass. THIS is where I need to rise up, slow down, do less or do more, do SOMETHING.’

And once you KNOW, it’s your responsibility to ASK. Because the second you activate your voice and express your needs, the whole world will conspire to meet them.

And so I ask — what do you need from me, Shameless.ly, our Girl Gang? What do you want to hear, learn, discuss? What can we create and cultivate to better serve you?

BECAUSE WHEN YOU, ASK YOU SHALL RECEIVE!

Let me know below. 🙂

Allie LeFevere | Founder of Obedient